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Title: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: twirl on February 21, 2009, 06:47:56 PM: she was 42, she had a 13 year old son, she lost her husband 2 years ago -
she went in for parathryoid surgery and died a few days later
she coded during surgery
made it out and texted another dialysis friend that her throat was sore but she made it out of surgery
then she coded twice and she is brain dead
they are waiting to unhook her until Sunday morning - I do not know why-
I knew her four 4 years and she is the patient I always gave my bone bucks too-
she had money troubles and I gave her the left over meals the gov gave when we endured IKE-
she is the one who found a snake on her dresser -
I gave her a real funny get well card and a pink stuffed dog-
I am so glad I decided to give it to her pre-surgery -
she was sick the day of surgery and had a temp
she had to come in to dialysis before she went to surgery
I could tell she was sick that morning
she had three other recent surgeries
two on her legs ---- one leg at a time and a stint in her heart
so we are wondering why didn't they give her more time to heal
she had her surgery on Fri 13, which she felt was a lucky day for her
I am going to so miss her
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: paris on February 21, 2009, 07:04:44 PM: I am sorry Twirl. I remember you telling us that you gave a woman your bone bucks and that she had a son. You kindness when she was with you made a big difference in her life. It proves how much we need to be good to others today and not wait for tomorrow. My heart breaks for her son. So much heartache at such an early age. You are a good person, Twirl, and I am proud to know you. Special prayers tonight for you and for her family. :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: del on February 21, 2009, 07:05:27 PM: :cuddle; Twirl. So sad when something like that happens.
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: okarol on February 21, 2009, 07:06:24 PM: Thank you for telling us about her twirl. I am sorry for your loss. :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: jessup on February 21, 2009, 07:06:49 PM: :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: monrein on February 21, 2009, 07:07:35 PM: I'm so sorry to hear about this Twirl. Really sad. Sending you hugs. :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Jess21 on February 21, 2009, 07:13:53 PM: :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Rerun on February 21, 2009, 07:16:41 PM: I am so sorry twirl. How is that little boy going to grow up? So sad! You were a good friend to her. Bless your herat.

:cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Wenchie58 on February 21, 2009, 07:17:50 PM: :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Romona on February 21, 2009, 08:20:53 PM: :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: nursewratchet on February 21, 2009, 09:28:21 PM: How Horrible!!! I'm sad for the little boy, sad for your friend, and so sorry for you to lose your hemo buddy. Life Sucks sometimes! :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: rose1999 on February 21, 2009, 11:11:54 PM: That poor little boy, to lose both parents at such a young age, what he must be going through, it makes me realise how lucky I am. Twirl you were a good friend, bless you for all you did, you have a good heart and we love you. :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Joe Paul on February 22, 2009, 01:24:58 AM: Sorry to hear it Twirl, I too lost a buddy this past Tuesday. May they both R.I.P. :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: willieandwinnie on February 22, 2009, 05:36:42 AM: :grouphug; twirl and JP, I'm so sorry. :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: NVRWKN on February 22, 2009, 05:57:15 AM: Sorry Twirl and JP for your losses. Sometimes we sit back and say why. And in return we get know answers. But anyone lost will always be in our hearts and memories!!!
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: twirl on February 22, 2009, 06:11:01 AM: her son will live with an aunt in Trinity, Texas ---
after my parathyroid surgery and the side effects --- I almost died and took a turn for the worst --- and got pneumonia --- at one time my family thought I was dead --- well, anyways---- of course, I told my friends the exact truth---- one treatment when my nep doc was on rounds he told me that I should be the PR person for the surgery so the other patients would not be afraid to have it done---- I told him I have to be honest with them---- we are all we have (each other) I just told them the truth --- I do not feel better but my numbers are all improving ---- I did not tell them to get it or not to get it ---- he told me to tell them that I feel better and if I did feel better I would have told them that--- my husband notices that I do not feel better at all ---- I think my friend was not over her other surgeries and she had a fever in dialysis that morning--
guess we will never know --- she would always stop at a gas station and bring me a glass of little chipped ice ---- our unit will only give us 6 ounces-- she was a nice person

thanks for your comments and support - you are the best
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: cat on February 22, 2009, 06:34:51 AM: I am so sorry to hear of your loss. :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: pelagia on February 22, 2009, 07:07:06 AM: Twirl and JP - I am saddened by the loss of your friends. I am sorry that the little boy has lost his parents. Hopefully his aunt will shower him with love and he will grow up in a happy home. Twirl, I know you have a big heart. Thank you for making the world a better place. :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: kitkatz on February 22, 2009, 10:17:45 AM: That is so sad. I feel for you. :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Slywalker on February 22, 2009, 03:59:00 PM: :grouphug; So sorry Twirl.

Sandyb
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: David13 on February 22, 2009, 04:19:36 PM: Twirl, I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Thank you for sharing. This is a great reminder that the tme to share kindness is now and not to postpone it.

You were a good friend. :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: paddbear0000 on February 22, 2009, 08:09:28 PM: :cuddle; :cuddle; Oh Twirl! I'm so sorry to hear this. You were such a good person to care for her the way you did. I feel so bad for her son as well. How awful to have lost both of his parents, especially so close together like that. :'(
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: MIbarra on February 22, 2009, 10:11:28 PM: So sorry, Twirl! :cuddle;
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: paul.karen on February 23, 2009, 08:42:07 AM: :-(

Poor lady-Poor Son.

Your a good person Twirl.
It is the little things that people remember the most.
:cuddle; Sorry you lost a Friend
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: Bajanne on February 23, 2009, 10:03:34 AM: I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It is never easy and you never get accustomed to saying goodbye. I am glad that you have some good memories to stay with you. :cuddle;
Sorry about your loss, too, Joe Paul.
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: twirl on February 27, 2009, 12:07:53 PM: update
my friend is in a room, the life-support was stopped last Tuesday and the only thing keeping her alive is her respiratory system -
it has been two weeks today since her surgery
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: donnia on March 04, 2009, 02:17:31 PM: So sorry for your loss twirl :cuddle; You and her family are in my prayers
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: twirl on March 04, 2009, 04:30:00 PM: thank you Donnia :-*
Title: Re: another dialysis buddy dies -- not from IHD -- my clinic
Post by: twirl on March 06, 2009, 02:35:08 PM: my friend died Tuesday night very late--
I did not go see her -- they stopped doing dialysis
I did not want to see her like that
I am not proud of it
her son is acting like he could not care less
he is drinking, smoking and having sex with his 8th grade girlfriend
she wants to have a baby
they have not decided where he will live -
seems like no one is looking forward to the way he is behaving-
she was having problems with him -
he is a smart student but will not go to school
- they were about to be called into court
my husband suggested that we adopt him-
does he forget that I am sick -
I would love to help if I felt better-
it is not a situation where they want him adopted outside the family -
they just need to decide where he will stay
he was taking advanced algebra in 7th grade and I doubt that he will ever finish school and he was on the football team