I Hate Dialysis Message Board
Introduction => The IHD Family - Our Members => Topic started by: Roxanne610 on January 22, 2009, 10:42:02 PM
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Hello everyone,,,
You know at nights now I find myself lost I always looked so forward to the information that you all helped me and always giving me a glimpse of hope in every post you gave to me.. :thx; :cuddle;....................This is all so surreal for us right now, today was my dads birthday and my brother texted me saying I can't belive I cant call daddy to wish him a Happy Birthday,,,I said I know it sucks..I wish I could wake up and this just be a bad dream but every morning that I wake up with my mom unfortunately its real...
Miss you guys...Hope you all are well.
xoxoxoxo
EDITED: Moved to proper section - Bajanne/Moderator
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Well Roxanne we miss you too.. and just because you don't need us for kidney related info you can still come here for support and to chat with us. We all love you and absolutely you can come here when you're lonely or down or whatever...
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Dear Rox,
I miss you, too! Please know you
and your family are still being sent
prayers your way.
The loss of a beloved parent is one
of the hardest things anyone can go thru
in this life. I remember well how I felt
when my own Father left us for heaven.
Please be well, and loving thoughts sent
to you and all of your family.
Anne
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:waving; Roxanne
Thanks for popping in now and again. We as well miss you here.
Sadly people find this site due to an illness of themselves or a loved one.
But with this site comes friendships that can last a long time from what i have seen.
So please drop by to let us know how you are doing when you can.
Even though you came here to learn from experienced people who have been there, some of us have as well learned from you and your experiences.
For me it was very touching and nice to see the love you had for your father.
Wishing you all the best.
P&K
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:cuddle; Rox
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We think of you and your family often. You are still one of us, so come and visit anytime you can. We want to know how you are doing. :cuddle;
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I don't think you can ever stop being part of the IHD family - cos we won't let you :2thumbsup;
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:waving; Hi Roxanne. I think of you often and am glad you drop in from time to time. :cuddle;
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G'day mate
:flower; :flower; :flower; :flower; :flower;
lots of love to you, your mum and bro
take care
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You've been through a lot Roxannne. I am sending you a :cuddle;.
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Hey Roxanne,
I just posted a reply to your previous thread and just saw this (I am still catching up after about a month of not being on the site). I realized I haven't been here in a while and missed seeing the familiar names/faces and wonderful posts everyone has. I am so glad you are still posting on here and popping in from time to time. I hope you and your family are doing well. I know how hard it is to lose a parent, especially due to circumstances related to kidney disease.
My best piece of advice is to stay as close as possible with your mom and family, and see them as much as possible, especially your mom. Everyday it hurts, especially on significant days like birthdays, holidays, etc, but your family is what helps you get through it the best you can.
Take care
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Sorry I only just saw this. And to find out that I have the same birthday as your dad! We have a special birthdate- the only date that counts correctly - 0123!
That fun fact aside, I was so glad to see you post. I join with the others to beg you to stick with us.
I am moving this to the family thread, because that is what you are to us!
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Hey Miss Roxanne, how are you?
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Hello everyone!!!! Miss you all
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Hi Rox,
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Hi Roxanne. Hope you guys are doing OK. We think about you. :grouphug;
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Glad to see you post again. How's your Mo holding up? Your Dad would be so proud of his family the way you all care about each other and stick together through thick and thin. It is a great legacy for your Father. :grouphug; Don't be a stranger.
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Hello,,,
We are hanging in it still doesnt feel real I have to be honest with all of you...Last nite we went to a medium this spirtual event it was good...My dad came through last nite to me it was nice....So it made me feel a little better but now I want more... :( Hope everyone is doing good... I think of you all the time and my best wishes are always with you..
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Nice to hear from you Roxanne. :cuddle;
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Great to hear from you mate
Please give my love to your Mum and bro
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and of course :cuddle; for you
Take care
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I posted some pics of my dad so everyone can put a face to who we tried to help so much..I miss him so much guys...my mom is a total mess,, feel so bad for her dont even know what to do...:(
EDITED - Photos resized - Bajanne, Moderator
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Heres one of my family 9 years ago...
EDITED - photo resized - Bajanne, Moderator
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Thanks for sharing those beautiful and moving pictures with us. And thanks for still checking in with your IHD family. My caring thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom and your brother. :grouphug;
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Lovely photos Roxanne. Thinking of you. :grouphug;
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Roxanne they are lovely pictures - thank you. He was clearly a special man.
One thing does concern me though about your posts above. You said you went to the medium etc and that you "want more" - I don't want to seem uncaring or callous here but... you can't have more. You didn't mention what happened in the medium session but I'd hope that you could get some closure from it.
It is beautiful that you are all so committed to your father but I don't think he would want you dwelling with your lives totally on hold......
I don't mean to be rude or offensive but I sense there could be an issue.
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Nice pics Roxanne. I know it's a rough time right now for your mom and your family. My mom passed away last Sept and it is hard, but the best advice is to try and stay busy and keep your mind occupied, especially your mom. Do what I do..I give my dad errands and tasks all the time just to help fill his time. It works great because he is retired and has so much time on his hands and it makes him feel good to do things for me.
My mom was truly my best friend and we were very close, but life has to go on. I know she would want me to enjoy life and have as much fun as possible, just like she did. I pray and "talk" to her everyday, but I try not to dwell on it too much. It's a cliche, but there are better days and worse days, but the worse days aren't as bad anymore.
I'm sure your dad would want you all to still live life the same way you did prior. And I'm sure your mom will deal with the loss better each day :)
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Thanks everyone....Yea its so new that its still very hard...And Richard the medium helped it was a very spirtual thing we did..Right now anything that can help is better than nothing..
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Great pictures Roxanne.
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Those are beautiful photos Roxanne. I can see that you look a lot like your dad.
After my husband's dad died (he was only 59 and he died very unexpectedly of a heart attack), my husband and his siblings spread their father's ashes on a mountain near his home. The next time my husband went to the spot on the mountain a bird came and sat on a tree branch right next to his head and proceeded to sing a clear beautiful song for him. My husband wrote a piece of music about the experience. He calls it "I knew it was you." He was happy that his father found a way to come to him one last time. At some point, maybe when you least expect it, you may have a moment when your dad is right there with you again. Even if that never happens, a part of him will always be inside of you.