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Title: Lost a friend today
Post by: boxman55 on December 31, 2008, 08:47:31 PM
Not a good way to end the year. My friend Brad who I knew for about 12 years out in Sacramento when I lived there, passed away today. Since he was 19 he has had a pretty tough life. Brad was accidentally shot in the back during a hunting outing and was crippled from it from the chest down. For the time I knew him, that never slowed him down. He was fiercely independent and could load his chair in the back of his truck and do what he liked. With being a paraplegic came a lot of medical problems that he had to deal with. He always took it in stride and was notorious for driving the nurses crazy. He developed bladder cancer recently, and it wasted no time in taking him out (he was 47). I did get a chance to talk to him on the phone when I was allowed by the ICU nurses and was also updated on his condition regularly by his sister Mary Jo whom was my girlfriend for about 9 years.

I hate the fact that I can not get to his funeral. Kidney disease does not allow you to just get up and go and I will feel bad about that for awhile. I pray that he is in a better place now, and walking on his own. I will miss Brad, he was one of a kind...Mark

Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: thegrammalady on December 31, 2008, 08:53:01 PM
boxman i'm sorry for your loss. know that we love you and you and your friends family will be in our prayers.
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Post by: kellyt on December 31, 2008, 09:02:40 PM
I'm so sorry!  I'm sure he's in a better place!   :cuddle;
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Post by: kitkatz on December 31, 2008, 11:05:18 PM
 :grouphug;

Prayers for you and your friend.
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: Sluff on December 31, 2008, 11:08:16 PM
My condolences on the loss of your good friend.
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Post by: okarol on December 31, 2008, 11:14:33 PM

  :cuddle; So sorry Mark.  :'(
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Post by: circleNthedrain on December 31, 2008, 11:16:03 PM
It is so hard to lose a friend, I'm really sorry Boxman.
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Post by: rose1999 on December 31, 2008, 11:17:05 PM
:grouphug;  just to let you know I'm thinking of you.  Please don't feel bad that you can't go to the funeral, Brad knew how kidney disease restricts things and he would understand.  It is better to care for people when they are here - and you did that.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: Bajanne on December 31, 2008, 11:28:03 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss.  One thing that we never lose, however, are our memories.  Hold on to them.  :cuddle;
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Post by: twirl on January 01, 2009, 12:17:09 AM
so sorry Boxman :(
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Post by: mikey07840 on January 01, 2009, 12:25:19 AM
Sorry for your loss Boxman.  :'(
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: breezysummerday on January 01, 2009, 01:32:55 AM
I'm glad you got to talk to him in ICU.
when someone blows out the candle I think they know
he is much better to have a friend like you on his side
bless his family and children and you too  Mark for being his friend
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: willieandwinnie on January 01, 2009, 03:55:44 AM
 :cuddle; I'm so sorry boxman. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.  :grouphug;
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Post by: monrein on January 01, 2009, 04:30:49 AM
Boxman, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.   :grouphug; :cuddle; :grouphug;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: 2_DallasCowboys on January 01, 2009, 04:38:31 AM
 :cuddle;

Anne
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: boxman55 on January 01, 2009, 07:32:13 AM
Sometimes our shoulders aren't quite big enough to handle things like this, but for all you to offer up part of yours for support makes it easier. Thank you for your thoughts and kind words...Boxman
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: kidney4traci on January 01, 2009, 08:39:50 AM
Sorry for the loss of your friend Boxman. 
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Post by: Wenchie58 on January 01, 2009, 09:12:29 AM
Sorry to hear of the passing of your friend.  May your memories carry you through this rough time. :'(
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Post by: David13 on January 01, 2009, 09:18:41 AM
So sorry to hear of your friend's passing. 
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Post by: MIbarra on January 01, 2009, 09:49:11 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by: petey on January 01, 2009, 09:54:50 AM
So sorry, Box.  I'm thinking of you.
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: KT0930 on January 01, 2009, 11:49:52 AM
Sorry to hear of your loss, Mark.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: epowife on January 01, 2009, 05:25:05 PM
:grouphug;

So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.  You were there for him through thick and thin and I am sure that is something he appreciated most.  Try not to feel bad about not being able to attend the funeral.  As one of the other members noted, it is much more important to care for those you love when they are still here.  It sounds like you did just that and enjoyed the many years of friendship that you shared.

I pray that the good Lord with replace the hurt in your heart with all of the fond memories you two shared.  He truly is in a better place now.

 :cuddle;
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Post by: pelagia on January 01, 2009, 07:11:37 PM
He was lucky to have a friend like you in life.  I am sorry that his life wasn't longer.  :grouphug;
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Post by: Joe Paul on January 02, 2009, 12:04:05 AM
Box, so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend  :grouphug;
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Post by: G-Ma on January 02, 2009, 12:09:14 AM
My prayers to you and your friend.
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Post by: idahospud on January 02, 2009, 01:13:03 AM
I am so sorry for your loss my thoughts and parers go out to you .  :bunny:
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Post by: paris on January 02, 2009, 02:33:31 PM
How fortunate he was to call you friend.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I am sure he leaves a big hole in your heart.    :cuddle;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: del on January 02, 2009, 04:20:18 PM
 :cuddle; It's always hard to lost a good friend.  He was lucky to have a friend like you.  My thoughts are with you.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: Lucinda on January 03, 2009, 11:06:36 AM
Sorry Mark that I didn't see this thread earlier. I am really sorry about your friend.  He was the same age as me.....way too young.  Big hugs and lots of love, Cindy. x
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: boxman55 on January 06, 2009, 02:10:36 PM
Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. I hope death doesn't happen in threes because my Uncle Ralph passed away last nite. He was married to my Mother's sister. Our families are very close. Total of 17 kids between our families. He was a very stand up Uncle. He will be missed...Boxman

(Give my Mother a hug, Uncle Ralph, then find someone to play cribbage with you but, go easy on them)
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: pelagia on January 06, 2009, 02:13:52 PM
oh no, sorry, so sorry  :grouphug;
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Post by: lola on January 06, 2009, 02:14:44 PM
So sorry Mark :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: monrein on January 06, 2009, 02:59:29 PM
No Boxman, it's going to stop now.  You've had enough losses.  I'm sorry to hear about this latest loss.   :grouphug;
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Post by: thegrammalady on January 06, 2009, 03:05:46 PM
 :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: kitkatz on January 06, 2009, 03:09:52 PM
I know you feel this can't be happening.  Hugs!
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Post by: G-Ma on January 06, 2009, 03:28:14 PM
Oh Lord.  My prayers are with you.
Ann
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Post by: Rerun on January 06, 2009, 03:50:20 PM
Boxman, I'm so sorry for your losses.  I have faith that there is a better place after this.  I hope you find peace in these troubled times.

                                          :flower;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: willieandwinnie on January 06, 2009, 04:55:31 PM
:grouphug; Boxman, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: boxman55 on January 07, 2009, 01:54:23 PM
Thank you all again for your thoughts and prayers. Having two people die so close together is hard to take...Boxman
Title: Re: Lost a friend today
Post by: glitter on January 07, 2009, 02:27:03 PM
I am sorry your sad Box- I never know what to say to express my compassion for your heartache- just know I have been thinking of you.  :flower;